Has there been a time in your life where someone would ask everybody to clap their hands and you couldn't? 

Oh my goodness YES!! Basically every week. Sometimes it's awkward being the only one not clapping. Not because I can't but because some people don't really know that I truly can't. So I assume the worst in what they are thinking. I know I shouldn't assume but I do. Then again it's an opportunity to share my story if they would ask. :) There are times where I wish I could clap but He reminds me that just because I can't really "clap" He provides other ways to do so. It may not be the same but hey He always provides a way. 

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Is it hard for you to ask for help?

Well it depends. I have my good days and my bad days. For the longest time I found it to be very hard for me to ask for help. Mainly because I wanted to prove people wrong and show them that I can do it all by myself. Through most of my life I learned things on my own that seem impossible to do. At times I would get frustrated when I couldn't do it the first few times. But as time passed I would eventually learn how to do it. It may not get done the way others would get it done but it did. It was just done a different way. My way so to speak. 

Now the last few months He (meaning God) has been teaching me that its OKAY to ask for help once in awhile. Or let others help when they offer. He is also teaching me to let the pride go and be humble. To be honest I was like I don't have pride I can do it myself.  Which was the pride in me talking.  Its not about if I can or can't do something on my own. Its about letting others in to help and get things done as a team. 

So all in all its getting easier to ask for help when I really need it. There is still A LOT of work to be done with me to completely get better at letting/asking others for help.  

~Me

If people with one arm go to get their nails done, do they pay half price?

Well in the beginning I use to pay full price. Then I got smart and just asked them how much it will cost to get just one hand done. Yes they will look all confused at first but realize that I am serious. They said yes. Although some other places will try to rip you off and charge you 75-90%. So before I ask I look at how much the full set is. If they try to say a higher price then half I ask them why because I'm only getting one hand done. If other places say no I say ok thank you and walk out.

Its not that I'm being cheap. I just don't see why I should pay full price if i'm only getting half done.  Just saying….. :)

Till next time 

~Me

My long time fear may be coming true?????

So I recently went on a field trip with a family member and their class. I wasn't really thinking about all the curious little ones questions. By all means I knew that they will ask but boy was it a bit overwhelming. Don't get me wrong I prefer them to ask. I just wasn't expecting them to run up to me as soon as I entered the class room. I guess I wasn't really prepared for it because I was just excited to join them.

So with a smile on my face I answered their questions. None of them seemed to be bothered by it. They were just curious and wondering why and how it can be. After they asked me they would run up to my family member and ask them. I guess they thought I was joking and was trying to play a trick on them? So we got our little group together and headed out. I was lucky and got a pretty nice set of kids.

One of my fears of when I have my future kids when I grow up is that they will get teased because of me. It makes me really sad to know that it can and probably will happen. I can tell that my family member was a little annoyed with all the questions but they stood calm and just told them what I always tell that family member.  Now I fear that the "wild" bunch in that family members class will tease my family member. The reason I say this was because on our walk back to the school they (the "wild" ones) were pretty much making fun of me behind us. Im not sure how much my family member heard but I pray they didn't hear any of it. I'm okay with them teasing me because its pretty much been apart of what people do my whole life. I have come to deal with it. I just don't like it that they will start teasing the family member though. That family member absolutely does not deserve that kind of treatment. I'm stuck at how to handle this situation because Its never really happened to us before. :(

Any suggestions? ideas? feel free to leave in comment cause I'm lost lol.

Til next time

Me

It's OFFICIAL!!!!!!!!!!!! Finally.

So after more then 8 months of waiting it finally happened like over a week ago. I no longer need to either pay a monthly parking fee or spend more then 2 hours looking for parking anymore!! I had no idea that i can actually get these until I talked to my neighbor. So I took the chance to see if I can and they approved!!!! Now I may start to like shopping for more then a few items at a time and actually not dread getting them from the car to the house. You see I don't mind parking far until I got stuff to carry. There is only so much I can carry.  

So tonight I officially experienced my first ever having to call 311 on somebody. :( It was really hard for me to do it because I dont like to get people in trouble but I had no choice. Someone parked in that spot.  I knew the day was coming that someone will park there and not care if they'll get a ticket or not but I didn't think it will happen during the night. Well that is all for now til next time.....

It was brought to my attention by multiple people. That you were unable to post any comments on my posts. Good news I think I have fixed the problem!! Yay. Feel free to leave your comments, questions and suggestions if any. If it still doesn't work please let me know so we can find a way to fix it. Have a great week!!

Now I will look forward to doing that instead of dreading it. :)

        Who ever created that ^^^ is a genius!! I been looking for something like that for a long time. I love to blow dry my hair but rarely do it because its actually kind of hard to do. It is a lot of work and time consuming with one arm.  Needless to say that will be on my list of things to by in the near future...

P.S. If you have any questions you will like to ask please feel free to ask and I will answer them. NO answer is dumb or embarrassing to ask. I love to answer your questions. If you want ask them anonymously free to. you can either email them or comment your questions on this blog. :)

Many years ago a friend and I were out and about. As she was driving she ended up getting pulled over by the police. When they were done and we went about our business we started to talk. I'm not sure it might have been me or it was her but some questions came up in the conversation. They was "what would you do if your friend was involved in a police chase with you in the car and the police said put both hands out the window? How would you do that? would they shoot at you thinking you had a gun in your other hand?" First I'll probably be freaking out. Second I have no idea how that will go down. I would either try and tell them I only got one arm or I'm going to get shot at and if I die my family will sue them. I hope that situation will never happen but if it does what is there to do but put out the only one I got and keep shouting out the window I only got one arm? 

So its been awhile since the last blog. All is well here just a little crazy and busy. Plus I kept going back and forth on what topic to write about. It was between answering a question someone asked me or something I go through each and everyday.

   With that said lets get started:

"What is the very hardest thing you had to go through in your life?" ~Person A

Well this question is/was really hard for me to answer which is why it has taken me so long to answer. You see I have to many things to choose from and some of them I'm still going through. I guess some for me is or will be a daily struggle.

So as I was heading home tonight I had a chance to think about that question while on the train. It was a battle between dealing with daily glares and stares or fully and completely accepting who I am physically. I'm going to go with option #2 because option #1 still bothers me from time to time.


Today as I was getting ready My niece was following me around. She hasn't really seen me in a tank only (of course I had pants on) and with my hair up. So she was curious. She wasn't scared or anything just accepting. She would ask questions or just want to touch (which she did). She was totally fine and not freaked out or anything unlike some other family members. Which I won't give names.  Which I'm getting use too.

It just got me thinking what if EVERYBODY had faith like a child or should I say sometimes think like a child in terms of accepting others for who they are. Even if they never seen different in their lives. Even if they enter unfamiliar areas or don't know what they are seeing. I think thats why I LOVE working with kids so much. For they love NO MATTER what. They don't care about how you look. If you love them and treat them well they will love you back.

As Im writing this I'm starting to realize that maybe just maybe God has placed the desire to work with kids in me to help me accept my physical self. It has taken me 90% of my life to fully accept it and truly rely on Him.

I am okay if people don't accept me because they don't see people like me on a daily basis. Or never ever seen someone like me. It can be Uncomfortable because you don't really know what to say or do or even know how to go about starting a conversation. I truly do understand that for I feel the same way when I'm around "different" people sometimes. Its an unfamiliar area and its got to take you out of your comfort zone. I get it. But It just takes going out of your comfort zone and getting to know that person to realize they are just like you and go through the same struggles/ issues you do they just look different.


Thats it for now got to get up early :)

Some things are just not possible to do/follow!!

can you see the problem I have here with that??? Just a little humor for tonight. :)

That is definitely not possible for me to do!! 

Well I can obviously pull it down with one hand just not with two.

There's a reason Why I don't pray that.......

So someone asked me why don't I just pray and ask God for an arm where there is none awhile ago. They continued to tell me that He can do that because He is God all I got to do is have faith as small as a mustard seed and it will happen. This person was a stranger. I never met him before. I really don't remember what my response was to him at the time. I'm not sure if I even gave him a response or just smiled and nodded.

Heres the thing I do know that NOTHING is impossible for God to do. So yes I know that He will do it if it was in His Will and if I had faith while praying for Him to do so. But heres where I am about that topic. You see God made me!! It was not a mistake that He made me this way. I can understand if I was born with two arms and something happened that caused me to loss an arm. Then yes I would probably pray that God will help me out in that area and make a miracle happen. He made me in His own Image:

Genesis 1:27

New International Version (NIV)

²⁷ So God created mankind in his own image,
    in the image of God he created them;
    male and female he created them.

And He knew what He was doing:

Psalm 139:13-16

New International Version (NIV)

¹³ For you created my inmost being;
    you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
¹⁴ I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
    your works are wonderful,
    I know that full well.
¹⁵ My frame was not hidden from you
    when I was made in the secret place,
    when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.
¹⁶ Your eyes saw my unformed body;
    all the days ordained for me were written in your book
    before one of them came to be.

With that said I feel like I should be content with who I am and not try to be like everybody else. For I am an original and I am Unique just like He made me to be. So for me to ask that of Him its like (no offense) spitting in His face and say He didn't do it right. Or its like saying He didn't do a good job with creating me. Sometimes I feel like it will Offend Him because He put so much work into me to make me the way He wanted me to be. Other times its like saying well God I know that you created me in your image but umm well I don't like it.

Stuff like that. Thats why I refuse to even pray for another arm. Whats the point anyway. It will just get in the way anyway. Yes there are times when I wish I did have two arms but its usually when I am frustrated about something that I was either unable to do or it was near impossible to do.

~Me

Some things that I may get in the future to make life a little bit easier once I'm married and have kids :)

- This cutting board would help me out so much click Here to view it. 

- This is pretty cool too. click here to see

- This fork knife is pretty cool. click here

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My apologize for not taking the pictures myself like I said I would. Its just been a very busy week. So I just got these ones off the internet. They are the same ones though. :) Here are the two can openers I got I was talking about in my last post. They truly are awesome to have!! I got two because one of them got lost for a long time (like almost two years). I just recently found it as I was cleaning out the cabinets. Who would of thought it will be on the second shelve all the way in the back. Could someone have put it there as a joke???? hmmm who knows. So where did I get them well I got them at T. J. Maxx. I'm sure you can get it from amazon as well or other online stores?? They may be hard to find in some stores. Hope this helps =]

I been meaning to post this for awhile just haven't had the chance. So I got this one handed can opener and I love love LOVE it. =] I'll take a picture of it as soon as I can. The reason for this post is because same of my two handed relatives hate it and can't figure it out. The other day I came home and one of them was like "I hate your can opener" Me all smiles was like "Why?" them "because its hard to use and we dont know how to work it." Me all excited because well there is so much in this two armed world that I am unable to do. I felt really good because there was finally something that I can do that they at least for now any way can't.... Oh and it is manual.


CHALLENGE for you to try....Just to get the feel of how it is.....feel free to give me feedback on your experience while trying it. :) I will love to hear your thoughts and feelings about it.

So here's the CHALLENGE: Get a can that requires a can opener. Get what ever can opener you got and try to open it with just ONE HAND!! It can be electric or manual or both :)


That is it for now. :)


P.S.

I am taking questions so feel free to email me so I can answer!! any question!!

So I came to realize a few things about myself from an event I was at a few weeks ago. You see not only do I let my pride get in the way sometimes when its time to let others help out. Its also because of others why I don't ask for help. I'm NOT by all means blaming anybody for my actions but they do play a part in it. You see a few weeks ago I realized I needed help with something and I did ask for help. (which I only do if I really really need it) Well you would think someone will be like sure I'll help. Needless to say that was not the case this time. :-/ This person told me that they can't because "I'm off duty." You probably can imagine what was going on in my head. Someone else was there and thank God for this person because they knew what I was feeling and could see the frustration I was feeling. So they without hesitation helped me out.

Sometimes I just wish that those close to me will understand that I am limited to doing some stuff on my own. I know that they feel like I'm some kind of super women that can do anything and everything. But thats just not the case.....I wish it was but thats just not possible. The only person that can do everything was Christ Himself according to the calling He had while He was on this earth.

You see I'm not one to ask for help just to be lazy. I ask for help because I really need it. When I do ask for it around those close to me some of them would always give me negative response and it sucks. It really hurts me although I may not show it but it really does. Its like feeling you can count on someone but in reality their nowhere to be found when you need them the most. This blog is not for people to feel sorry for me its to just get a feel of what I'm going through and how I feel about it. As well to understand how I view the world through my eyes.